One-Sided Love Affair

Meron daw tinatawag na one-sided love affair. Ito daw 'yung ikaw lang yung nagpapaka pagod magmahal pero ang minamahal mo eh dedma lang sayo.

Hmmm..di ako naniniwala na ang one-sided love ay isang affair. An affair usually involves two or more individuals who have agreed to enter into a mutually satisfactory, emotional and sexual relationship.

There are always two sides in every coin, ika nga. At ganun din sa mga bagay-bagay. Ang mismong mundo natin ay nilikha at dinisenyo gamit ang konsepto ng pagbabalanse ng dalawang magkasalungat na bagay. Tubig at lupa. Araw at gabi. Lamig at init. Babae at lalaki.

Ganun din sa larangan ng pag-ibig. Marahil hindi lang angkop ang salitang one-sided pagdating sa pag-ibig. Dahil tulad ng karamihan ng mga bagay-bagay sa mundo, may dalawang mukha ito parati. It's either he loves you or he doesn't.

If you think you are engaged in a one-sided love affair, i.e., you love him more and he loves you less, it is safe to say that you are just performing self masturbation. Pleasurable sometimes, but very unfulfilling. Just a thought, meheheh..! :D

A Love Story When You Wake Up

Hello there, I just want to share this cute and short love story. Got it from symbianize.com, naisip ko lang s'yang i-post on my blog kasi I really got amazed and I was like..so kilig..specially on the last part..hehe!!! So here it goes...

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Mag-aalas dos na pala. Kanina pa kami magkausap ni Maui. Ang makulit pero cute kong friend. Nakilala ko lang siya sa isang site. Mga 2years na din kaming magkakilala. Nakwento ko na ata lahat sa kanya. Kanina tinext niya ko, curious daw siya eh..

"Dee, musta na kayo? Bat single ka na?" bungad na tanong niya sakin.

"wala ng kami Mau, ako na lang. Single na nga di'ba?" pilosopo kong sagot.

"ewan Dee! Anlabo mo! Haha. Oi may maaalala." pang-aasar niya sakin

"shut up Mau, ibablock kita!" ganting biro ko naman.

Sabi niya sakin nagkainteres lang naman siyang kaibiganin ako dahil sa mga ginagawa ko. Wow, utang na loob ko pa? :-D

"oh, bat dika pa tulog Dee?" pangungulit niya sakin

"wag kang magulo, iniisip ko siya kaya di ako makatulog" sagot ko naman.

"woshoo! Iniisip mo siya kaya di ka makatulog? o di ka makatulog kaya iniisip mo na lang siya?" pang-aasar pa din sakin...pero, napaisip ako may point din siya. Which is which?

"Mau, iniisip niya kaya ako?" iwas tanong ko.

"duh! Mauntog ka naman! She regrets everything, yung mga ginawa mo, kinaya n'yang kalimutan yun lahat ng ganun-ganun lang and you'll ask me that stupid question?!" she answered furiously.

"oh cool ka lang Mau, masyado kang high blood" sabi ko na lang.

Maybe Mau was right. Kasi ako madaming nawala pero wala akong pinagsisihan. So maybe, she's right when she said that everything I did with my ex is not important to my ex. Ang laki ko palang tanga!!

"I'm so glad you're there with your cynic point of views Mau" pang-aasar ko din sa kanya.

Then she answered, "no i am not a cynic person, yun ang reality, so kelan yung next gawa mo nang story?" ..."next week na lang or tomorrow Mau, it's midnight, ayaw mo pang matulog?" i said, trying to get rid of her.

"wag puro broken ha, kasawa na Dee! Yung nakaka-inlove naman. Para inlove ka ulit."

"wala akong inspirasyon Mau. you know that I can't write without a subject."

"can't you do a random love story?"

i sigh and said, "I can't. You know how I write."

"eh di matatagalan pa yan, let's sleep na", she finally asked me to go to sleep.

"I need a love story Mau, you know that.."

then answered, "no Dee.. You need love... You do the story.."

i did not reply...

She then text again...

[dami diyan Dee... Turtle ka lang!]

and i said:

can you be that girl Mau?

She asked, "what girl Dee? "

I replied, "that girl I'd love to talk to, and talk about.. That girl behind my every story... The reason of my every love story... Gawa tayo ng love story?"

she did not replied..

Shit.. Nalintikan na..

Ano na kaya iniisip niya...

I texted again...

I said hey,. No reply...

I then said goodnight..

Tinabi ko na phone ko. Napa-isip ako..

Ang gago ko.. Tsk..!

Why do i have to pull stunt like that?

Makatulog na nga...

Then nagring mobile phone ko..

Si Maui...

Nag-isip ako. Sagutin ko ba?

I decided to answer.

With her sweet sleepy voice she said:

Dee... I'll look forward to that love story. The sooner we start, the better..

I think gusto naman ng mga bida yung isa't-isa... :-)

bukas paggising ko, start na ng love story ha? Goodnight Dee, I Love You.."

And with excitement, i said, "affirmative. :-)"

Are you with the RIGHT PARTNER?

Every relationship has a CYCLE… In the beginning; you FALL IN LOVE with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their individual or unique characteristics. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely NATURAL and SPONTANEOUS experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "FALLING" in LOVE.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept off my feet." Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is a PASSIVE and SPONTANEOUS experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love FADES. It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.

Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's individual or unique characteristics, instead of being cute, it'll drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic DIFFERENCE between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with SOMEONE ELSE. This is when relationships breakdown.

The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's LEARNING to love the person you found.

People BLAME their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.

INFIDELITY is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies WITHIN IT...

I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY, you'd feel better. But you'd be in the SAME SITUATION a few years later.

Because, the key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's LEARNING to love the person you found.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.

Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner). Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also LAWS for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are PREDICTABLE.

Love is therefore a "DECISION". Not just a feeling.

Remember this always: It's not pre-determined who walks into your life. It is up to you to DECIDE who you let WALK AWAY, who you let STAY, and who you refuse to LET GO.

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CREDITS TO THE AUTHOR: acusDgreat. "Are you with the RIGHT PARTNER?"
Symbianize (http://www.symbianize.com/). 8th Feb 2013.

Think Positive And Things Will Go Right

Everyone's life is full of events. Most events are routine ones and we forget them with time. However, there are some events, which we remember for the whole life. Such memorable events may be positive or negative. Such events have a great significance in life. If one thinks deeply, they also convey a deep message and the message is that life is a complex phenomenon governed by many unseen forces. The events of life are not solely in our hands though our role is important. This role is mainly played by our thoughts and my experience is that our thought have a direct bearing on the course of events in our life. Of course, we have to face what is due to us on account of our destiny, but even the impact of destiny is affected by our thought process. If our thoughts are positive, events turn for the better and if negative, for the worse.

When we face a situation with positive attitude, faith, patience, hope and sincerity, the answers come on their own.

A problem is a problem only as long as we consider it a problem. On the other hand, every problem is an opportunity in disguise and a greater problem is a greater opportunity. True, some problems have no answer but they have a purpose. We have either to find an answer to the problem or seek a purpose behind it. Both enrich our life and make it worth living.

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