Oct 27, 2013

Are you with the RIGHT PARTNER?

Every relationship has a CYCLE… In the beginning; you FALL IN LOVE with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their individual or unique characteristics. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely NATURAL and SPONTANEOUS experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "FALLING" in LOVE.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept off my feet." Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is a PASSIVE and SPONTANEOUS experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love FADES. It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.

Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's individual or unique characteristics, instead of being cute, it'll drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic DIFFERENCE between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with SOMEONE ELSE. This is when relationships breakdown.

The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's LEARNING to love the person you found.

People BLAME their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.

INFIDELITY is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies WITHIN IT...

I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY, you'd feel better. But you'd be in the SAME SITUATION a few years later.

Because, the key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's LEARNING to love the person you found.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.

Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner). Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also LAWS for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are PREDICTABLE.

Love is therefore a "DECISION". Not just a feeling.

Remember this always: It's not pre-determined who walks into your life. It is up to you to DECIDE who you let WALK AWAY, who you let STAY, and who you refuse to LET GO.


CREDITS TO THE AUTHOR: acusDgreat. "Are you with the RIGHT PARTNER?"
Symbianize (http://www.symbianize.com/). 8th Feb 2013.

Oct 17, 2013

Think Positive And Things Will Go Right

Everyone's life is full of events. Most events are routine ones and we forget them with time. However, there are some events, which we remember for the whole life. Such memorable events may be positive or negative. Such events have a great significance in life. If one thinks deeply, they also convey a deep message and the message is that life is a complex phenomenon governed by many unseen forces. The events of life are not solely in our hands though our role is important. This role is mainly played by our thoughts and my experience is that our thought have a direct bearing on the course of events in our life. Of course, we have to face what is due to us on account of our destiny, but even the impact of destiny is affected by our thought process. If our thoughts are positive, events turn for the better and if negative, for the worse.

When we face a situation with positive attitude, faith, patience, hope and sincerity, the answers come on their own.

A problem is a problem only as long as we consider it a problem. On the other hand, every problem is an opportunity in disguise and a greater problem is a greater opportunity. True, some problems have no answer but they have a purpose. We have either to find an answer to the problem or seek a purpose behind it. Both enrich our life and make it worth living.