Ang mga Babae...

"Ang mga babae, madaldal/mabunganga." Oo, wala talagang tigil ang bibig sa pag-rachada sa kakasalita. Lalo na sa tuwing pinapaalala nila sayo na oras na para inumin ang iyong gamot, kapag nagtatanong sila kung kumain ka na ba, kapag ginising ka nila sa umaga upang hindi ma-late at sa mga pagkakataon na nag-aalala sila sayo at tinatanong kung nasaan ka na at bakit hindi ka pa umuuwi. Walang duda, madaldal nga. Hayaan mo na, balang araw, siguro magbabago din sila. Tipong maririnig mo lang eh "Oo", "Hinde" at "Pwede". Para kayong naglalaro ng Pinoy Henyo. 

"Ang mga babae, masyadong sentimental." Oo sinabi mo pa, ganun talaga! Tandang-tanda nga nila ang petsa at lugar kung saan kayo unang nag-date, nakatago at ingat na ingat siya sa mga larawan nyong dalawa, daig pa niya ang collector ng mga antique sa pag-aalaga ng mga iniregalo mo at kahit kailan hindi niya nalilimutan ang mga importanteng okasyon tulad ng anniversary, monthsary, weeksary o birthday mo. Nakaka-inis ba? Ok lang yan, malay mo next time, hindi na siya ganun. Tipong i-aasa na lang niya sa Facebook ang kaarawan mo tapos tamang post na lang sa wall mo ng "hapi bday".

"Ang mga babae, emosyonal." They cry about movies. They get teary with a romantic novel. They blush and gasp upon seeing a picture of a cute dog or a cuddly baby. Bakit ba ganun sila? Hmmmm...buti na lang kayong mga lalaki hindi noh?! Kasi kayo kinikimkim lang ninyo lahat ng emosyon sa loob hanggang sa sumabog at atakihin sa puso o di naman kaya eh magpapakalasing tapos magwawala at maghahamon ng wrestling. Di ba mas logical yun?

Ang mga babae madalas pa mag-imagine na ikakasal kayo sa simbahan. Lagi nag a-i love you, i miss you, take care/ingat at mwah-mwah sa text. Asar ka na ba at nako-cornyhan? Ayos lang yan. Darating din siguro ang time na titigil siya at i-sesend ang mga yun sa iba. 

Women are probably the greatest gift to men, from God, beside beer and sizzling sisig. At para sa 'kin, women deserve all advantages, lalo na sa pag-ibig. Sana lahat ng babae ay maging masaya ang lovelife. Sana, walang babaeng heart-broken, kasi, kayong mga lalake, you're meant to pursue them and it's okay if you fail from time to time. It's the way nature intended it. Gaya ng isang leon sa usa o pag-ikot ng Earth sa paligid ng araw. 

Mas okay kung kayo na lang yung masasaktan (hahahaha)! Eh ang mga babae? Isipin mo, nagkakaroon sila ng "dalaw" at nababaliw kada buwan, nabubuntis at nahihirapan ng 9 months, at pinaka matindi sa lahat, kailangan pa nilang panatilihing makinis at walang buhok ang kanilang mga kili-kili. Ano ba namang pasayahin sila at gawing "scar-free" ang kanilang buhay pag-ibig. And if you are with a great gal, do everything to make her happy. Don't ever break her heart. 

Wag kang magpa-uto sa mga statistics, na nagsasabing, mas marami ang babae sa lalake, kaya okay lang mang-chiks. Ano pa bang gusto mo? Hindi pa ba sapat na minahal ka niya sa kabila ng iyong pagiging engot at kawalan ng Romantic DNA sa katawan? Malaki man ang papolasyon nila sa mundo, napaka-liit ng tsansang makakilala ka ulit ng katulad niya na magtya-tyaga sayo. Tandaan, pansamantala ka mang maakit ng mga naglalakihang pulang high-heels o maaarteng makintab na sandals, mas masarap pa ring umuwi sa nag-iisang tsinelas ng buhay mo. ;)

PEOPLE CHANGE

Have you ever been in a situation that seemed so perfect?

And then looked back on it and realized it wasn’t as it seemed?

I was remembering something about him. Reminiscing a time when I was so happy being with him.

I look back now, almost like I’m staring at us from another person’s view.

I see a completely different person now.

He isn’t the person I knew.

It’s strange to spell out, but all I can say is in my memories, he isn’t who he was.

People change. Oh yes, we change!

So don't ever expect that the person you knew a decade ago will be the same person now.

I'm Just Proud of the Fact That You've Done It Your Way

Have you actually been proud of your boyfriend? That you have been fortunate enough to know precisely the real him, while everyone else wants to be up close with him at that certain moment where you know in by yourself that you have had enough of what they are presently craving for. Not only in the physical standpoint of why they crave for your boyfriend just to be up close with him, but the each and every little thing that flashes the eyes of the crowd and the way he astonishes everyone just the way he is.

Perhaps in some point of time, you got jealous of what he shouldn't provide too considerably for the crowd, but you have to take the truth that you two have both diverse kind of living to deal with. Some little factors that can make us jealous are the issues that remarkably been taught to make us realize something we shouldn't be jealous about. But at the end of the day, you are just proud of the fact of what he is in his own world, moments that you aren't with him and have to dwell his own life, and you are proud simply because he didn't change a bit of the way he is with you and without you.

"I'm just proud of the fact that you've done it your way." You claimed to your boyfriend, when you really don't have to be someone you aren't, within his entire world when you see him recognizably does not changing the way he is of the way he was with you prior to that moment.

You never know that he has the very same proud that you have with him, and probably that's the main reason why he only have to be himself, simply because you are proud and happy of each other appropriately. And what's more sweeter than that? :)

If I Wake Up Tomorrow Will You Still Be Here?

Have you actually concerned about your boyfriend leaving you in the morning or somewhere along in the wilderness that he will leave you any point in time? That you know that the night was an aspiration for you, and you know that if he at any time depart you that simply, you will now be awaken of a truth looks to be a dream. Uncertainties, when you don't know how considerably of a time he will get to be with you, but you know in by yourself that you have had ample of what you craved for.

I'm not pertaining to the 'sleeping with' matter but to the other side that you'll be concerned, that you know that he will leave you when you know with all your heart and soul that you gave your entire self to him. You just make sure yourself that you are an aspect of him and so he is with you. You really should know that if you have a thing to share or something to impart with each other, not only that sexual matter but also the very little factors, you know that you just influence him of the way he is and the way he will be if you at any time see each other yet again. The way he is when he is with you, now staying unfold of what amount of confidence and believe in that he could give in to that friendship or partnership you are possessing. A moment you understand that you are "in-theirs" and "in-time."

"If I wake up tomorrow will you still be here?" You claimed to him, when you know in yourself that you just do not execute all the ideas you had in your thoughts and that is why you consult him if he actually arrive back again so that you will have some other time to fulfill of what you have started off. Indeed, you want to finish each single discussion in a substantial note, so you let him know that you have had a good time and anticipating to have an additional time to spare with each other. You can't help yourself but to wait around for tomorrow and have it provide that feeling of enjoyment and rush you want to pour in so you could execute of what you must do at the appropriate sort of time.

Right after he just depart you, the moments that you have missed or anything you regret will haunt you right at that moment. You know that you have to wait for it tomorrow to have an opportunity to do it, but your inner drive to push out that regret instantly will just make you think that you are pathetic enough to have that time once again that you just dropped. You know that time will be subsequent, but you just make the most out of all the self-assurance you had right at that instant. And now that your confidence is suitable, that you now have that will to pull him back to you would make no perception simply because it isn't the proper time for you to do it. But you never ever know if he will at any time like that way or the other way about, nevertheless you have to regard as it is.

Now that, as soon as you retain it likely you will understand that you will in no way have sufficient time, just about every time you meet up with to have that great conversation. And then, you make it as a practice and make it to the level that you can, by no means dwell without it, and you choose to have it to live for your whole life. And that's how you act at it, you discover things that you want to live for the rest of your life and the simple fact that it all started off as an aspiration, but now you are leaving an aspiration you have never imagined to take place. Life is too short, so we have no time to spare for the factors and other things that is not significant to live a life to its fullest!

Work on a Humdrum

So I just spent the rest of my day bumming around. Been intending to paint but I didn’t get to.

I find myself counting the days until the next rest day, and you know it sucks when life starts becoming all about the next rest day!

It’s like you only have 2 days in a week that counts...

I try to think about what I need to do at work. You know, like the people who are so passionate and all, but my brain forbids me to. Like work is an alternate dimension that you must never revisit once you step out of.

I feel resistant to the incredible pressure it puts in me and really, what significance do these links and emails have in the world and in my life? lol..!

Sometimes I think I have an aversion to problems. If only things would just always go smoothly, but they don’t. Not at work. Not in real life either!

I always feel like running whenever I’m confronted by something so heavy.

I guess it’s because I haven’t really developed confidence in my skill for handling problems.

I like working on things in which i have a predicted end in mind. Whenever i do that I’m on a high, but I seem to have an aversion for the uknown.

It’s either that, or I don’t feel strongly enough for my job. Maybe I like it now because i have to like it. Maybe I like it now because it forces me to do things I wouldn’t have done.

Hell! I don’t even know why I like my job, or if I do like it in the first place. If I didn’t, I’m probably doing a good job at hiding it.

I think I’m so boring!

Maybe the reason why i don’t get to finish problems as fast, is my reluctance everytime they confront me. I tend to think too much. This one my friends and a few of my co-workers have started to notice.

I guess I need practice.

Thank God for having those people that loves me unconditionally. They drives me in those days i feel like going autopilot.

I feel like, I want to work on something that has a greater social significance and I will definitely not spend forever in my current job. However, I'm still appreciating this one for the training it gives me. Hopefully I discover the kind of job i really want soon :)

PSEUDO RELATIONSHIP: Parang kayo, pero hindi

The "parang kayo, pero hindi" stage…others call it MU or mutual understanding. Pseudo-boyfriend, pseudo-girlfriend, pseudo-relationships. Almost like a relationship, but not quite. It is a phase where the persons involved are more than friends, but not quite lovers. Pwedeng naay verbal agreement, pwede pud wala. One or both of you may have admitted your feelings, posible pud nga wala. You just let your gestures do the talking for you. Walang formal courtship na nangyari! Pero the way mo mag – act, sa inyong mga gina-sulti, parang kayo, pero hindi.

This kind of "relationship" can happen at different stages for different reasons. It can happen after a break-up…you still love each other and you want to be with each other but you broke up for a reason. And for reasons that you alone know, dili sa ninyo gusto magbalik. It can also happen before a relationship, kanang pareho gani mo nga nakikiramramdam pa lang sa isa’t-isa. Posible pud nga dili sa ninyo gusto mag-seryoso kaya atik-atik lang sa. Testing lang gud. Pwede pud nga dili pwede maging kamo kay isa sa inyo commited na. Kaya habang wala pa siya nakipag-break sa iyang gf/bf, wala sa mo’y pormal nga relasyon para pud nga dili siya matawag nga"namamangka sa dalawang ilog" kasi hindi nga naman kayo.

This pseudo-relationship stage, for a time, can be fun. Most specially if naghahanap ka lang ng “kalaro”...pero ayaw lang jud pag-expect nga naa’y adto-an ang ing-ani nga situation kay wala jud na’y kasiguraduhan. PROMISE!..So nganong daghan ang naga-settle sa ing-aning set up knowing for a fact na dili jud mo secured ug wala mo’y kaad-tuan sa ing-ani nga relationship?

Naa’y different reasons: Pwedeng for fun lang!..pwedeng "buti na iyan kesa wala" or pwede na iyang "pantawid-gutom." Meaning, habang wala pa jud ang the real thing, didto sa sa atik-atik. For those who are not in a serious relationship, they would think that pseudo-relationship is better than no relationship at all. It would be fun, if all you are after for is that "kilig" feeling…yung tipong  pag  open  mo sa cell phone mo mangingiti  ka  kasi  alam  mong  s’ya yung nag text.

Sa isang pseudo relationship, no commitments involved. For the simplest reason that they couldn’t commit, because they were either committed to someone else, or that they weren’t ready to commit. But then I learned that although it was only a pseudo-relationship, the emotions were real. First, you can’t ask him/her to commit. Since it’s not really a relationship, you can’t demand commitment from your partner. Ano ba kayo? You will always be uncertain about your role in his/her life. You can’t expect him/her to be always there with you. And if you feel jealous of the other girls/boys, you just have to keep it to yourself. Sino ka ba para magselos? Second, what if you fall deeply in love with him/her? You can’t be sure if he/she feels the same way. Basig naga-assume raka nga love ka niya…even if you are dying to tell him you love him/her, you can’t, because you’re not sure if he’ll/she’ll like it. Basig maulawan lang ka. This stage will always make you wonder where you are in the relationship. Or if there is a relationship at all. Third, what if you become attached too much? What if you have invested all your emotions and this man/woman hasn’t? What if you remain faithful to him/her, and keep on ignoring other boys/girls? See? Maka – ingon kaya ka nga safe ka sa pseudo – relationship? Wala jud kay assurance nga dili ka masakitan…isa pa ka downside sa pseudo-relationships, it is fleeting. When a disagreement sets in, or when one of you gets cold, then that would be the end of it. Unlike in a serious relationship, sa pseudo – relationship di mo alam kung san’ mo ilulugar ang sarili mo…wala kang pinanghahawakan.

Kasi sa pseudo-relationship, there is no "us." Meron lang "you and me," wala’y "us." Maayo unta kung pseudo-pain pud ang imong ma-feel. Kaso, dili man gud…real pain jud s’ya. And usually, bisag humana ang pseudo- relationship, dili jud nimo pwedeng maiwasan nga mag – hope one day, nga naa pa to’ siya’y continuation. And you will be miserable; you’ll get exhausted, hoping to bring back what you used to have, only to find out eventually that the guy/girl is in another pseudo-relationship with somebody else. Lisod kaayo, noh? You agreed to this kind of set up for fun and then you’d end up hurting yourself in the process.

Pero pwede man pud maiwasan ang sakit. Pwede ra man nga dili na lang sa nimo huna-hunaon ang future and just enjoy the feeling, without thinking of the consequences. "Gawin mo kung anong magpapasaya sayo!" but if you are certain that you are going to hurt yourself in the process, kailangan jud nimo mamili. You can be happy and live the moment without worrying what would happen next. Or you can stop settling with pseudo- relationships and wait for the real thing. Ang bottom line lang jud, “kung ano ang magpapasaya sa iyo, gawin mo…”

Just be ready of yourself lang jud sa mga possible consequences, dahil ang "parang kayo pero hindi" stage, usahay lang na siya matinuod…what I mean is , bihira lang kaayo na s’ya mauwi sa totohanan. Usually, hangtud dira lang jud na siya…ALMOST BUT NOT  QUITE

40 Rules for Living

1.Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.
2.Memorize your favourite poem.
3.Don't believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.
4.When you say, "I love you," mean it.
5.When you say, "I'm sorry," look the person in the eye.
6.Never laugh at anyone's dreams.
7.Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it's the only way to live life completely.
8.Don't judge people by their relatives.
9.Talk slow but think quick.
10.When someone asks you a question you don't want to answer, smile and ask, "Why do you want to know?"
11.Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
12.Call your mom.
13.Say "Bless you" when you hear someone sneeze.
14.When you lose, don't lose the lesson.
15.Remember the three R's: Respect for self; Respect for others; Responsibility for all your actions.
16.Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
17.When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
18.Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.
19.Marry someone you love to talk to. As you get older, conversational skills will be as important as any other.
20.Spend some time alone.
21.Open your arms to change, but don't let go of your values.
22.Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.
23.Read more books and watch less TV.
24.Live a good, honourable life. Then when you get older and think back, you'll get to enjoy it a second time.
25.Trust in God but lock your car.
26.A loving atmosphere in your home is so important. Do all you can to create a tranquil harmonious home.
27.In disagreements with loved ones, deal with the current situation. Don't bring up the past.
28.Read between the lines.
29.Share your knowledge. It's a way to achieve immortality.
30.Be gentle with the earth.
31.Pray -- there's immeasurable power in it.
32.Never interrupt when you are being flattered.
33.Mind your own business.
34.Don't trust a lover who doesn't close his/her eyes when you kiss them.
35.Once a year, go someplace you've never been before.
36.If you make a lot of money, put it to use helping others while you are living. That is wealth's greatest satisfaction.
37.Learn the rules then break some.
38.Remember that the best relationship is one where your love for each other is greater than your need for each other.
39.Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.
40.Remember that your character is your destiny.

Courtesy of symbianize.com

Painting the Town with Red

How to choose the right red lipstick for our skin tone?

I used to have a fear of wearing red lipstick. I had this thought that red lipsticks were only for those with a fairer skin texture. No biggie, I thought, morenas like me have other pretty pinks and browns to choose from anyway. Then I questioned, well, why should mestizas have all the fun?

Selecting the precise red lipstick, or selecting the right make-up for that matter, really depends a lot on finding the best products that will suit your skin's complexion. One of the easiest ways to determine your skin's tone would be to look at inside of your wrists. If the veins on your wrists are more greenish, then you have a warm, yellow skin undertone. If your veins have a more purplish tint, then you're more on the cool blue side. Those with a fair or rosy skin, usually have bluish undertones while morenas typically have yellow undertones. Mine are more greenish so I ought to stick to red lipsticks with red and brown orangey undertones.

There’s this one product that I’ve tried and I really like, it’s the Maybelline's Moisture Extreme Lipstick in Ruby Lustre. Yes, it's still red, but not the scary kind of red, if you know what I imply. Well, it's the kind of red lipstick that won't leave you looking clownish. Another Maybelline product that a friend of mine really loves is the Moisture Extreme Lipstick in Brick Rose. I find it a bit too dark for me, but she likes it a lot and it suits her very well so you might want to check it out that too.

I also like this L'Oreal's Glam Shine Cream in Glam Red. Like Maybelline's Ruby Red, it also has brown undertones which suits for morena skin tones. Now, if you're looking for a red lipstick that has SPF, then I’ll recommend you the Elianto's Spa Lipstick in Royal Red. This lipstick has SPF 15, which is really relevant for caring your lips and preventing it from getting darker.

On the other hand, the Fashion 21's Lip Spa Nutrient-Rich Lipstick in Raspberry is one of the super cheap red lipsticks that you might want to try. For only Php175.00, you get the color and the staying power of a rich red lipstick.

I think at the end there's really no "right" or "wrong" lipstick for you. If you feel like going for cherry reds, then go for it, if you think it looks nice on you. It all boils down to personal choice and what makes you feel beautiful and comfortable as well.

Art of Letting Go

It’s over. He’s gone. Why do we have to part while the love is still there? Why do we have to suffer? Why do we have to cry when someone bids goodbye? Why do beginnings have an end? Why do we have to meet only to loose in the end?

In a relationship, one of the hardest things to do is saying goodbye and letting go. It is as hard as breaking a crystal because you’ll never know when you will be able to pick up the pieces again. More often than not, they who go, feel not the pain of parting. It is they who stay behind that suffer, because they are left with memories of a love that was meant to be, a love that was.

At the beginning and at the end of a relationship, we are embarrassed to find ourselves alone. Unfair as it may seem, but that’s the way love goes. That’s the drama, the bittersweet and the risk of falling in love. After all, nothing is constant but change. Everything will eventually come to its end, without us knowing when, without us knowing how, without us knowing why. And we must forgive not because we want to but because we have to.

In letting go, sorrows come not in a single spy but in battalion. It seems that everywhere you go, everything you do, every song you hear, every turn of your head, every move of your body, every beat of your heart, every blink of your eye and every breath you take always remind you of him. It’s like a stab of a knife, a torture in the night; funny how the whole world becomes depopulated when only one person is missing. Just imagine there are billions of people on earth. And yet it seems you feel empty without the other. I don’t know if it’s worth calling an art, but letting go entails special skills sparkle with a considerable skills and time. Time heals all wound but it would take a little push on our part. Acceptance plays a part. Not all wishes come true. Not all love stories end with “AND THEY LIVE HAPPILY EVER AFTER.”

Sometimes we have to part because of circumstances beyond our control. We have to suffer if it would mean happiness for others. We have to cry to temporarily let go of pains. Every beginning has its end, like every dawn has its dusk. It’s something we can’t control, something we have to live up.

For the Broken Hearted

“I can’t say ‘screw him’ to the guy that I have come the closest to being fully in love with. I still would do anything for him and it sucks because I know he wouldn’t do the same for me. That hurts more than anything, but I just can’t stop loving him, believe me I’ve tried.”

This is for the broken hearted. I know how you feel. Empty, betrayed, and no happiness whatsoever. You don’t want to laugh, because you know it’s not going to help, but you don’t want to cry, because it will just make you feel worse. You feel like your heart is falling apart, but not only that, but you know soon your life is going to feel like it’s falling apart too. You don’t think it will ever end, and no matter what this person has done to you, it feels impossible to stop loving them. And everyone wonders why if they have hurt you so much, then why do you still love them. That’s the confusing part, you don’t know why, you just do, and the people who hurt you the most, and normally the ones you love the most. And then, after a few weeks, you finally feel a sense of relief, like you’re getting happy again, but you know inside that you’re just going into denial. And after a few more weeks, you’re back to where you were an empty soul and teary eyes. You thought you got over them, but really, you just stopped showing it. And you can’t help but to show it again. It leaves deep scars on your heart that are there forever. And no one understands how you feel, and how deep you are hurt, no matter who they are, because it hasn’t happened to them And even if it has, every broken heart is different. They don’t know the true pain you feel and carry each and everyday now, so you learn that basically you are alone with all this. And the feeling starts to overwhelm you, and suddenly you just break down, right there, because you know you’ve had enough, the tears just instantly start flowing, and you’re to the point where you don’t care who see’s. Because you’ve spent so many nights lying awake in bed, and so many days being haunted by the scars and fear of rejection. And in the midst of all these tears, you know that its not helping any, and it’s not going to bring them back, if you ever even had them in the first place. After about a million tears have been cried, you finally pull yourself back together and keep going. Your throat starts to clench and your eyes burn with the tears you are trying to hold back. Everyone says, “It will be okay…” But you know it won’t. And that’s the truth, it won’t. And you look back on all of the hurt you had from this, and you realize that people are horrible. You’re still hurt, but you’ve learned to hide it so that everyone thinks you are okay. So now every time you see this person, you know you still love them, and you feel a slight tingle in your heart yearning for them to love you, screaming out, but for some reason they don’t hear it. And then you sit back and wonder how one person could have caused all of this.